Blog: Heart of A Woman

“Who Makes You Whole?” by Angela M. Brown


“A good man is hard to find.”

“You complete me.”

“Love Wins!”

“And they lived happily ever after…” 

[Insert sound of scratched record]

How many times have you heard and rehearsed these messages like a broken record, only to have your groove interrupted like someone bumped the DJ table ? What happens when the dreams dancing around in your head about “the one” remain just beyond your grasp, or worse—you find them, only to discover they’re a nightmare?!?!

EVERY girl around the world has her identity shaped by the idea that she is incomplete unless she’s in a relationship with a man. Knowingly and unknowingly we venture out on a quest to find our “prince charming” to save us, protect us, provide for us, cover us, love us—only to disappoint us.

Then after the men in our lives disappoint, in spite of sincere attempts by many to live up to our expectations, we vow to live life alone, professing, “I can do bad all by myself,” or for some, fall into the arms of another woman, hoping she will hold you up where he has let you down.

Single, married, lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender—we all have holes—damaged esteems that skew how we see ourselves and relate to God and one another. The only solution is, as I heard so eloquently stated recently, “to rest the weight of our lives upon the lover of our souls.”

Every misplaced attempt to fill our holes with affections towards or from another person will only result in bigger holes and more disappointment. God is perfect love and only God can make us whole.


Angela M. Brown

Angela M. Brown

Founder of A Woman’s Business and contributing writer to the Heart of a Woman weekly blog designed to inspire and challenge us to live in the fullness of our purpose, power and position as women, Angela M. Brown is a daughter, sister, wife, mother, auntie, friend, mentor, PR executive, author, commentator, motivational speaker and community leader—a woman recognized for making a difference and inspiring others to do the same. Follow her on Facebook or Twitter and discover tales of her journey on the “road less traveled” and the tools she’s gathered along the way turning obstacles into opportunities in “Resilience, Living Life By Design.”

A Letter to My Mom, The Late Mother Mary Ridley by Maria McKinsey

The Late Mother Mary Ridley

The Late Mother Mary Ridley

Dearest Mommie,

This day marks the date you physically left me, 23 years ago. I just want to let you know that my heart will always hold a special place for you, the place where love resides.

I remember your beautiful smile and oh so many kind words, encouraging me and a myriad of young ladies.  It’s no wonder why the town we lived in dedicated this day to you. Even though you were physically beautiful, your heart was much more attractive. You looked at everyone as your own, as you touched our souls with respect and appreciation. What a legacy! You taught me that a woman’s most beautiful asset ever is charisma and her prettiest accessory is her smile. We all can have this quality. With prayers and supplications, come hills or valleys, my hope is to continue this legacy.

Guess what Mom, you’d be proud to know that Angela, your beautiful granddaughter is following suit. She’s a strong woman and is bringing about change for all women in our communities, and by faith, the world. In fact, we’re working together to help this desire become reality, letting all women know, it’s “A Woman’s Business” to help fulfill one another’s purpose, not backbiting, not competing, but building up and edifying.

As you clearly spoke to me as being your treasure, she is definitely my treasure. I can truly say, my hope is being fulfilled, and it’s becoming a tree of life to me and to many others.  I am proud to call her daughter and friend.

You set ths stage for this special bond and the story is playing out beautifully. Love is trickling to a great granddaughter, Olivia Simone.  Stay tuned for the finale!

Thank you for your nurturing and loving “stay sweet” spirit; “till that timeless place when we’re face to face and we embrace for always.”

All my love,

Your daughter,



Maria McKinsey

Maria McKinsey

Maria McKinsey is the proud daughter of Mary Ridley, mother of Angela M. Brown and grandmother of KJ and Olivia Brown.  Known for her sweetness, compassion and heart for service, like her mother, she’s passing on a strong legacy of love for and service to God and your neighbors to her children and children’s children.  For a closer look at this Heart of a Woman, follow her on Facebook and Twitter.

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Put on Your Red Cape by Lu Ann Cahn

When was the last time you donned your "red cape"?

When was the last time you donned your “red cape”?

A friend of mine recently sent me this picture of herself posing in public in her superwoman cape. I laughed, of course, at her daring audacity but it got me thinking.  We all have worn “the red cape”. We all have done courageous things in our lives; stepped up to do the right thing, faced a fear, achieved goals, stood back up after defeat or crisis.

Yet, sometimes we forget where that person went. Sometimes we lose our best selves. Sometimes we get stuck and don’t know how to get back to the person we know and want to be. We forget how to wear our “red cape” and bravely go exactly where we want to go.

Anyone can get stuck. I understand that. I’ve been there. I was a national, award-winning journalist and found myself, seven years ago, rejecting and fearing change. I isolated myself. I put up walls. I stopped learning, growing and doing new things. I lost my best self for awhile.

I was ashamed too. I’m a two-time cancer survivor and I understand how precious life is and yet I just wasn’t enjoying my days. I was going through the motions, miserable, angry, no “red cape”.

You are lucky in your life if you have friends or family who will call you out when you aren’t “you”. My daughter did that for me. She dared me to go on a journey to get my life “unstuck”; a journey that changed my life. She dared me, for a year, to do something new every single day: polar bear plunge, eat a scorpion, hula hoop. Sounds a little crazy, right?

It was. But sometimes we have to really shake things up to get back to our best selves. I guess you could say I had to get up every morning and force myself to “put on the red cape”; face a new challenge, take risks large and small.

Let me tell you, life got “unstuck” in a hurry. In the end, I made a pretty daring leap from my 40-year career in broadcast news to become an author, speaker and career coach to thousands of media and communication students at Temple University. I hear from people all over the world who share their daring stories with me and tell me about the change they are creating in their lives.

Today I get to dare students and teach audiences across the country how to get “unstuck”, dare themselves to take risks, make mistakes, play close to the edge of your comfort zone as often as possible, to wear the “red cape” every day.

I have to thank my red cape wearing friend, Ruth, for giving me the visual to inspire new words and I can’t wait to dare you to “fly”.

When was the last time you donned your “red cape” boldly doing something you would have never done before?  Share your dreams with us in the comment section, then stir up the courage to achieve them at the 2016 Power To Be Tea featuring remarks by Lu Ann Cahn!

Lu Ann Cahn

Lu Ann Cahn

Lu Ann Cahn is a veteran broadcast journalist who twice battled and overcame two forms of cancer to pen the inspirational memoir “I Dare Me” chronicling her year-long journey to push herself to take on a new challenge everyday. The result was a courageous leap of faith, leaving a “dream” job to dare students and teach audiences across the country how to get “unstuck!”  Follow Lu Ann on Twitter and Facebook, then meet her at the 2016 Power To Be Tea on May 7th.  Get your tickets today!

I’m ready for a Revolution.